by Peter Löcke //
Do you like being right? Do you like being right? I do. Whether in court, in professional discussions or political debates, but above all in arguments in my private life. If I think I'm right, I want to assert it and I want the other person to see that I'm right. Non-violent communication according to Rosenberg, speech cushions, empathic first-person formulations, four-ear models, gender-sensitive language? I know. Even children are taught that. That and Vulgar and Denglish as their first foreign languages. But just between you and me. Actually, we all want to be right. It's good for the ego. That's why we discuss things. Isn't it? The only problem is - my counterpart usually thinks the same way.
Who hasn't experienced this in their private life? An argument starts with an accusation of incorrectly separated waste and ends with a slamming door and the angry words "What I always wanted to say to you". There are also slamming doors in digital battles in the forums of this world. I can't get through with my arguments against a gentleman called Anonymous? The guy only seems to be on air and not on reception? Then I'll just have to write my arguments in bold and add several exclamation marks and emojis. So mocked and insulted, the other person will surely see that I'm right. From a purely linguistic point of view, the formulation "The fact is that" is recommended in debates. If this formulation is not followed by facts, but only my subjective opinion, that is irrelevant. My opinion is a fact. Period.
Up to this point, it was all about everyone's inflated or bruised ego. That can be smoothed out again. With time and emotional distance, I can look inside myself and realize a mistake. Then I open the slammed door with chalk in my mouth and a bouquet of flowers in my hand. Then we meet in the middle at best. At least that's how it should be.
But what if it's not just my little ego, but my entire worldview and self-image is dependent on being right on a certain issue? What if everything I have ever believed in, internalized and breathed collapsed in the event that I am wrong and the other person is right?
As a German, whether I am 15 or 75 years old, do I still know war? Only in theory. I know war from history books and TV. Wars on television are now video games. The images shown are pre-washed by the media and, above all, wars are always far away. What war feels like is no longer in the emotional memory of Germans. It is unimaginable, impalpable that it could happen again. Wars only exist elsewhere, but not in our colorful absorbent cotton world. What about regimes, dictatorships, a media that follows the same rules? All this only exists elsewhere. They only exist where evil prevails. Evil prevails in countries like North Korea, China, half of the Arab world, and in European countries like Russia, Belarus, Hungary and Poland. Here, however, it is good. Democracy reigns here, freedom reigns here. At least that's what it says on the packaging, so the content is the same. There is critical, free, serious journalism here, right-wing and left-wing media that report independently. That was the case, that is the case. That is the world view of the average German. At least for West Germans.
And then one day a friend, wife, brother or work colleague comes along and says it's all wrong. It's no longer true. They tell you that you are living in a big propaganda lie, in a bubble, a matrix. Everything you ever believed in is just a mirage in the Germany of 2020 and 2021. That's what this person would like to tell you. It would also mean that you yourself are the idiot and the nutcase and not those you have been calling idiots for almost two years in a mixture of mockery and aggression. Do you then have the inner willingness to even want to listen to this person? Or do you cover your ears and, as a highly cultured person, say "Shut up, you conspiracy theorist!"?
Do people prefer to believe in a lie when it does them good or in the truth when it hurts them deeply? In March 2020, I saw exactly the world as it appears in November 2021. Because I do modeling like virologists and scientists? No. Because I have a crystal ball like Lauterbach? No. By listening and falsifying. Does it make me feel good to be right today? No. My desire to be wrong has never been greater. And I have often, far too often, been wrong in life. It's a good feeling for everyone to run through the world with a crown. But not doing so also has its advantages. Then you don't have to worry about not being right. Am I not right?
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Wenn zwei rechthaberische Menschen aufeinander treffen, dann nur, um ihre eigene Meinung zu zementieren. Das mag den beiden Egos zunächst Nahrung und Auftrieb geben, hat aber den schalen Nachgeschmack, dass jeder in seiner engen Denkweise und damit in seiner eigenen geistigen Beschränkung und Betrachtungsweise hängen bleibt. Getreu dem Motto: Alle doof, ausser ich. Ich bin nicht religiös, aber ich glaube an universelle Gesetzmäßigkeiten. Eine davon lautet vereinfacht: innen wie außen. Wir sehen die Welt nicht, wie sie ist, sondern wie wir selbst in unserem Innere ticken. Unsere Denkweisen und die damit verbundenen Glaubenssätze schalten unsere Realität. Je offener und flexibler wir auch andere Blickwinkel betrachten und uns selbst hinterfragen können, desto größer wird auch unsere innere Welt und die Möglichkeiten im Aussen, die sich uns bieten. Ich persönlich halte nicht viel davon, andere Menschen “ missionieren “ zu wollen. Wer sich in seiner geistigen Beschränkung wohl und sicher fühlt, darf gerne dort verharren. Ich derweil drehe mich um, lächle in mich hinein und lasse dem Anderen gerne sein Siegergefühl. Ich schenke lieber Menschen meine Aufmerksamkeit, die an einem echten Austausch von Meinungen interessiert und in der Lage sind, andere Meinungen auszuhalten und zu akzeptieren. Keiner ist im Besitz der absoluten Wahrheit. Wir alle sehen immer nur Bruchstücke einer Wahrheit oder das, was wir für wahr halten.
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Vielen Dank für diese -ach so – wahren Worte. Auf welcher Seite der Tasse der Henkel ist hängt bekanntermaßen vom eigenen Blick auf die Tasse ab und ist, ausser für die „Rechthabe Position“ relativ belanglos. Hier, in unserem Land und weltweit geht es aber um deutlich mehr. Hier wird mit Lügen, verdrehten Fakten und einer, für Deutsche leider nicht beispiellosen Meinungs-Gleichschaltung und Propaganda, eine Hetzjagd gegen Unliebsame geführt, die nicht zufällig an Zeiten vor 88 Jahren erinnern läßt. Man möchte nur noch weg, wenn man nur wüßte wohin. Besagte unliebsame Volksgruppe damals hatte noch Länder, die ihnen Sicherheit und Schutz boten, wir heute nicht mehr. Nach fast zwei Jahren läßt der Wille hier, in dem Land in dem ich 63 Jahre lebe, um die Wahrheit zu kämpfen und durchzuhalten spürbar nach.
Dear Mr. Löcke,
You speak from my soul. The question that arises for me is how do we get back together with those who understand our world differently than we do, do we even want to? Especially in families, as a couple, as friends. We, who believe we are right, should let others have their opinion despite all the incomprehension we feel, as long as it is bearable for us. "Do not do to others what you would not want done to yourself." The saying of our childhood. There it is, the demand to see and respect the other person's point of view. It's not always easy these days. Perhaps because we ourselves are already in a state of constant overexcitement, into which we allow ourselves to be driven by our indignation and our fears. We should not do the puppet masters this favor. Our strength lies in calm rather than excitement. If we want to overcome this crisis, we must reduce the division in society and turn to those who think differently and are open to an exchange of ideas. I think this becomes all the more important the more absurd propaganda is used to turn people against each other.
...and if you, dear politicians, have to guide people through a really dangerous situation - even if it's just beginners skiing down an icy slope in poor visibility and their knees are shaking - then this can only be achieved with calm, prudence and confidence - but not with the alarmism of Wiehler, Spahn, Drosten, Lauterbach, Montgomery, Merkel and whoever else is simply spreading fear on the media stage. And social cohesion is more important than ever in real emergencies - instead, political divisiveness is being sown...
Leon Festinger, ein amerikanischer Sozialpsychologe, prägte durch eigene Studien 1957 den Begriff der ‚kognitiven Dissonanz‘ …
Das drückt diesen Zustand, in dem sich derzeit mehr als 80 % der Bevölkerung befinden – oder besser ausgedrückt – sich in diesen Zustand selbst ‚versetzt haben‘, am besten aus.
...when singing in a choir, our voices are at odds - someone doesn't have the right tone or rhythm. Is it me or someone else? The piece is still so new that there is still no certainty about how it should sound. Practicing...
There was also this training scale with unjustified certainty, justified uncertainty, unjustified uncertainty, justified certainty...
Those right-wingers who think they have always done everything right have never learned anything - and in the end they can't do anything.
Jedenfalls schadet es nie, Dinge zu revidieren, aus verschiedenen Perspektiven zu betrachten und aufgeschlossen dafür zu sein, das es auch anders sein könnte als man dachte. „Es irrt der Mensch solang er strebt…“ Aber es gibt ein paar Dinge, die unendlich schwer auszusprechen sind – dazu gehört: „Ich habe etwas falsch gemacht“, “ ich brauche Hilfe“ und „Worcestersauce“… 🙂
My letter to the editor in WELT a few days after Donald Trump won the US election:
„Demokratie bedeutet auch die Akzeptanz von Wahlergebnissen. Wer dazu nicht bereit ist, ist auch zur Demokratie nicht bereit. Ohne diese Akzeptanz geht eine Demokratie dem sicheren Tod entgegen, wie gerade eingehend in den USA studiert werden kann. Das wird uns jedoch erst nach dem nächsten Wahlsieg der Demokraten richtig bewusst werden“
I would give a lot if I had been wrong. Then we would probably have been spared a lot.
Thank you very much for this comprehensive and open reflection.
Of course I have a position and look at things from my point of view. I have the right to express it. May I retain the ability to be open to the perspectives of others. And may I continue to have the right to freely decide whether they change my point of view. .....
Being right and getting right are 2 different things and always depend on many small things, in practice on the environment, the environment and the people with your opinion as well as the experiences and experiences of the people and fitting the saying of E. Roth: a person hopes piously and quietly that he once gets what he wants until he then succumbs to the delusion and finally wants what he gets
To be right or not, foreseen or not, known or not... unfortunately only some people see or recognize the desire to wake up. So who helps us to wake up together? The right? I think others simply bought it at the sales. Once again, we were too late.
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It's not a good feeling when you know you're right but you still have to give up
I always knew I was right. That's what my gut whispered to me.
This gut feeling you described is also mine. It has accompanied me throughout my life and I have often been right in hindsight. My gut feeling has been on heightened alert for two years now. I would love to be wrong! However, it looks as if it won't let me down this time either.
Unfortunately!
Mr. Peter Löcke
An intellectual debate should always be open and the basis should first be agreed so that what is said is correct. Now the basics can be wrong or not understood, then what is said is always wrong, but we have consensus!
We are caught in this trap in connection with the dogmas of payer and virus existence, both of which are dominated by the sects of economics and conventional medicine and covered by the legislator!
Frage: Wenn die Verbrecher die Macht besitzen, wie soll man sich dagegen wehren? Indem die Massnahmen diskutiert werden, ohne die Grundlagen, wissenschaftlich breit abgestützt, gegenseitig abgestimmt zu haben? Sicher nicht, aber genau das passiert, auch in den „modernen Medien“!
Ich mache ein Beispiel, 99,97% der Menschen glauben, Grundlagen falsch, jedoch Konsens, sie bringen Geld auf die Bank und „finanzieren“ den Staat und Soziales. Beides ist systembedingt völlig falsch, dient jedoch der Macht, ihren Spieltrieb ausleben zu lassen! Die Armut und Existenzkämpfe sind weltweit organisiert, IWF, Weltbank, BIZ und WHO sind die dafür notwendigen Organisationen!
Significantly comparable to infectious diseases caused by viruses, which are demonstrably unproven, even if the associated technical requirements were available. Who is lying about this basic knowledge? There is no need to prove non-existence! Exactly the same effects as the dogma payer! The ratio is disturbed, but serves the power to live out its play instinct!
If the foundations are wrong, what is said can never be right, even if you are proved right! Moreover, the rule of law has been undermined, why is that?
Best wishes from the C-prison in Switzerland
Dear Mr. Bender,
The widespread belief that the coronavirus narrative of Drosten and his associates is conventional medicine is misguided. Prof. Bhakdi and Dr. Wodarg are conventional physicians who are dyed in the wool. They work according to standards recognized by conventional medicine, as does Prof. Ioannidis, who pulled the plug on all this nonsense in his metastudy from September 2020.
Dear censorship officers
Warum wird eine Stellungnahme auf eine Antwort, nicht veröffentlicht? Könnte es sein, dass eine unterschwellige Kritik an den „modernen Medien“ nicht geduldet wird, also die gleichen Mechanismen angewendet werden, wie bei den korrupten Leitmedien?
If the plug has been pulled on this nonsense, why is electricity still flowing? The significant comparison to the non-existent payer, which enables the puppets on the wire of power to play their games, should open the mind to the fact that we all live on the breeding ground of LUG and TRUG and nobody wants to recognize the failure of the judiciary up to the constitutional judges, even before Corona?
Please reply to my known e-mail address! Thank you very much for your understanding!
The conspiracy theories of the past are the truths of the present...
Jedenfalls oft genug. Aber es gilt nach wie vor: „Was geht mich mein dummes Geschwätz von gestern an!“
My trust in the promises of politicians and people has been close to zero for years.
The fact is, (hehe) [in my opinion] someone who is in the media spotlight hardly ever admits that they are or were wrong.
There is no better way to put it
That's right, I'm right too, not just the others
Super thanks